How to look good dating: fashion tips for single guys
Going on a date is probably one of the most stressful positions you can put yourself in. There’s such a pressure to impress, particularly if it’s a first date, a blind date or with someone you’re particularly fond of. Indeed, in the latter scenario you’ll have to deal with the extra anxiety of lurve pumping you with heaps of unwanted adrenaline and leading to all those annoying symptoms such as sweaty palms, stuttering and blushing.
Amid all this stress, it would be a shame to ruin your chances with something stupid – like choosing the wrong outfit for example. Here are a few fashion dating tips for guys so no matter if you meet singles online or at the local pub that will be one less thing to worry about.
Smart but casual
The most important thing for a guy to get right on a date is the balance between smart and casual. Go for a top/trouser contrast to make sure you’re getting this right. If you wear jeans, go for a shirt. If you wear a T-shirt or polo shirt, go for smart trousers.
A bad choice of shoes is a sure way to make an immediate bad impression. Make sure they’re given the proper amount of attention – when it comes to picking them out and any polishing that may be required. Go for smart shoes and avoid all trainers and open-toed footwear.
Facial hair is another key element to consider – make sure you’re looking neat and tidy, preferably giving yourself a close shave before a date. Unkempt facial hair is guaranteed to put someone off.
A personal touch
It is important to be yourself when dating and also to be comfortable – so bear this in mind too when picking out your outfit. Go for splashes of personality– neckties, cufflinks, brightly coloured socks. You want to flaunt your personality in what you wear as well as sticking to some key dating rules.
Things to avoid
Here are a few things to steer clear of at all costs when choosing an outfit:
Steer clear of pongy aftershaves – if you go for a scent, make sure it’s a subtle hint, not a dominating presence your date is likely to choke on.
Football tops, rugby shirts – all of these are a no-go zone for dating. They’re simply not appropriate for a date and, because of the bad reputation attached to many sports fans, will do you more harm then good in most cases.
Whether you’re free dating in London or speed dating in Manchester, don’t let your outfit mess up what could be a great relationship!
Dating Fashion turn-ons and turn offs
Making the right impression is essential for the success of a first date. Chosen wisely, an outfit will give the impression that the wearer is a person of taste – something that subsequent conversation can reinforce.
Dating fashion turn-ons and turn-offs
Since moving from Spain with my two children and re-entering the UK dating game, I’ve stumbled upon a uniquely British problem: the relatively cooler climate means that fashion sense – or rather the lack of it – is more immediately apparent.
Socks with sandals, blue jeans with black denim jackets, even leg warmers with heels – I’ve seen them all. While clothes are of course secondary to personality, first impressions do count, especially on a first date.
A chronic lack of time in my life means that I unfortunately have to be a little judgemental. I’m looking for a woman who is responsible, caring and fun – someone to build a stable life together with.
With this in mind, the biggest turn-off for me is clothing that immediately suggests a woman may be irresponsible and/ or vain. The most obvious example here would be inappropriately revealing clothes.
Sending the wrong signal
Having used a free dating site as well as other more traditional ways to meet people, I have managed to enjoy a fair few dates. What I’ve learnt from my experience is that I have a problem with visible underwear. Although a younger man might disagree, thongs with low-riding trousers, obvious bra straps and visible panty lines are all bad things. Too much make-up is also a no-no, suggesting as it does a certain shallowness of character.
Trying too hard
There’s nothing wrong with being stylish. There is something wrong however with slavishly following the latest trends. The best clothes are those that suit a woman’s figure and that she feels comfortable in. On-trend items that look great in the pages of the glossies can seriously back-fire in the reality of a first date.
As with most things, context is all. Clothes that are all wrong for one venue are completely apt for another. I’ll freely admit that if I’m choosing a first date, it will more than likely be one of the following: dinner, a concert (probably classical) or the theatre.
Clothes that breathe understated elegance are perfect for dinner dates. Clothes that draw the eye away from the face can be detrimental to conversation. Dresses should be comfortable to sit down in.
During the summer, many classical music concerts are held outside – dressing in a long skirt or trousers will make an afternoon spent sitting with a picnic much more comfortable. Outdoor concerts are the perfect opportunity to invest in a stylish sun hat.
Events held prior to 6pm are less formal than those held later. For a matinée showing, a knee-length (or longer) skirt is an easy option. Heels are something of a necessity for the evening, as is an elegant dress. Don’t go over the top though – there’s usually no need for a formal long evening dress or elbow-length gloves. And remember – no jewellery at all is better than jewellery that looks cheap.
Dating is a minefield at the best of times, and that is true in every aspect, not just which outfit to choose (which we may see as the most important part!). There is a great community over at the eHarmony UK Facebook Page page that is full of useful tips and advice for dating and how to make the best impression on your next one.
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